Feeling guilty

Actually, the recommendations of the psychologists are meant for an average family. Anyway, every family build the relationship in own way. So, in some families the schemes like "leadership-obedience", "interest-ignorance", "tyranny-calmness" and others are possible. If it is not acceptable by some people, other people do not imagine another way of behavior.
So, if feeling guilty for something is not a normal way of the relationship to you, it is worthy reflecting how to cope and overcome. Sometimes, the wives or husbands use guilt as a method to guide by a person – do it-go there-bring that-help me-please me-do you remember that you are guilty? Each time when a torturer notice flesh of anger in the victim's eyes, he reminds "You are guilty". This torturing could be intentional or subconscious.
First of all, a reason for feeling guilty is to be understood. Usually, the reason is some offence (unfaithfulness, stubbornness and etc.). An offended person tries to heighten self-respect, return self-assurance and needs help more than blaming.
Communication, sincere talk may change the situation to the better.